Friday, February 4, 2011

It's fate

If you want something, make it happen.  We try very hard to live that way in this house.  I try very hard to leave my fate up to no one but myself.  I don't depend on anyone or anything to make things happen for me.  I don't pray for things to happen or change, I am that change.  For things that are mostly out of my hands, I do what I can to tip the scales in favor of the outcome I wish to happen, and then I have to let it go and hope for the best.  But a lot of things people want, they have control over (at least to some extent). 

First, you need to know what it is you want.  You might be thinking "I want a Bentley.", but really what that comes down to is you want a new job.  Most people can't just get a Bentley working the job they currently have.  So, if you want that Bentley bad enough, then you need to look at the steps required to get the job that will get you that Bentley.  So, maybe now you want more education to become eligible for that job.... you get the point.  You can't just wish for a Bentley, or pray for a Bentley, and expect a Bentley to appear.  If that is your method of seeking change, you'll be waiting longer for that change than you would be waiting if you started from the bottom and worked for it.  Real life example?  Sure, no problem.  It's like when I wanted to lose weight, and for years I was so upset over how long it would take to lose the amount of weight I wanted to lose.  Well, guess what!  That amount of time still passed.  Each and every time, the time passed.  Finally I committed myself to make the changes, and the same time ticked away.  This time, though, the pounds ticked away with it. 

You also have to be careful what you wish for.  It's really true.  If you decide you want something, and you are thinking about trying to get it, you have to be prepared for sacrifices that may be involved.  I used to look at other people's lives and think "Oh I want what she has."  Then I realized, you can't pick pieces of people's lives.  They aren't just living that one moment.  There is an entire life, an entire set of their own problems and issues that come with being them.  I can't just pick and choose what pieces I want.  If they sacrificed for what they have, then I'd have to be willing to accept that sacrifice, too.  Once you look at the big picture, perhaps you don't really want what you thought you did. 

I get reminded of these things from time to time when I hear someone say "must be nice" or "I wish I could do that".  They don't look at what it took that person to get to where they are.  Sometimes people are just handed golden situations, but other times , sure, it is nice but they worked their ass off for that situation you are coveting.  I also get reminded of these things when I hear someone say they are going to pray for success or to quit smoking or to lose weight... whatever it is.  I almost never hear those same people say what they are going to do to actually facilitate the realization of their dream.  I mean, I seem to remember hearing "He helps them who help themselves."  Well, we help ourselves here at this house!  If we fail, it's on us.  If we succeed, well we did what we had to do to get there.  (Plus we have a good support system around us, I would never skip out on giving credit to the folks who are there for us when we need them.)

In conclusion, make life happen!  Get creative.  Find inspiration and motivation.  Just be sure to have a friend near by in case you fall down.  They can pick you back up, and put you back on your path.  But own your life.  It's a wonderful feeling.

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